Not Just Another Breakup Blog

Personal Stories, Psychological Facts, and Everything in Between.

I never meant to collect stories. I just meant to fall in love.

But somewhere between the high school sweetheart, the one who love-bombed me, and the one who told me I was “too much,” I realized I was carrying around pieces of people I never truly knew.

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I’m 32 years old. I’ve dated dreamers, narcissists, charmers, emotionally unavailable “healers,” rich men with empty hearts, my celebrity crush, and kind men who didn’t know how to show up. Some broke me, some confused me, and some taught me things I wish I never had to learn.

I decided to start Aftermath Diaries because I know I’m not the only one.
I wanted a place where I could share the stories (the messy, complicated, embarrassing, funny, beautiful ones) and look at them not just with pain, but with insight.

Because I’ve been studying psychology, developmental psychology, and have read countless amounts of self help, relationship/dating, and human behavior books. I’ve come to terms that we’re all going through something at different times, and we all have different attachment styles and communication frequencies. And the truth is, a man vs. a woman’s brain is wired completely differently. So when there is a breakup, it’s hard to say who’s at fault. It failed naturally because maybe we didn’t go into it fully understanding each others’ past stories and pain. Or that we didn’t open up nor have had the compassion to understand why they are the way they are. Or that we never fully accepted our partners just as who they were. Not one sex is superior to the other. No one is always right, situations are relative and we all perceive things differently. We must accept that relationships are more complex than we think.

This isn’t a how-to. I’m not a coach. I’m not here to tell you what to do.

But I will be real. I’ll share what it felt like to date people who looked perfect on the outside and on paper but left me emotionally starving on the inside. I’ll explore the psychology behind our patterns our heartbreaks, and our constant need for closure.

And I’ll open up about my own blind spots, red flags i’ve ignored and collected, and post-breakup revelations.

If any part of this feels like your story, stay. Comment. Share. Email me. Tell me your version of “what the hell just happened, is happening?”

Because love doesn’t just hurt, it transforms. And together, we’re going to write the aftermath.

With honesty and hindsight,
Amanda
Writer of Aftermath Diaries. Believer in love after all.

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